I’m almost out of my 20’s and I’ve learned a few things. If you’re currently in your 20’s – this post will resonate with you. If you’re in your 30’s – this post will make you smile. If you’re in your 40’s – you’ll agree with most of these, and if you’re in your 50’s – you should share this with your kids that are in their 20’s.
10 GREAT Mistakes To Make in Your 20’s – Great lessons better learned sooner than later.
1. Date someone that takes you for granted. You know your own worth, but sometimes people make you question that. A couple bad relationships and you’ll learn to be much pickier, and live a much happier life with someone who drowns you in the love, attention, and respect you deserve. Don’t settle for someone that isn’t worth your time; love yourself no matter what and someone will see the same beauty as you do – this is a lesson better learned sooner than later.
2. Take a job because it pays well. Great money, fancy title, and nice thick business cards – what more could you want?! When you realize the salary you make just pays for the alarm clock that wake you up, the nice watch you’re glued to waiting for the day to be over, and the expensive shoes you’re eager to kick off when you get home – then what? By all means, work hard, put in the time, and pay off your bills; but don’t dread everyday because of it. Money is great until you start obeying it. You’ll learn quickly that enjoying the work you do heavily outweighs the money – this is a lesson better learned sooner than later.
3. Have a pregnancy scare. Trust me, I get it; she’s on the pill and you’re the master at pulling-out. Fellas, you should treat your d*ck like it’s a Christmas present – do you give gifts to everyone? No. Do you give presents without wrapping them first? No. Unless you want your friends to wish you a Happy Father’s Day every year for the rest of your life, I suggest you wrap it up. Ladies, I don’t care if his d*ck is made out of pure gold, it shoots out loud, needy, crying, and expensive responsibilities that change the whole course of your life, they’re called babies – is that something you want right now? Babies are amazing, but more so when they’re expected.
One scare should be enough to rearrange some priorities in your life – this is a lesson better learned sooner than later.
4. Start a business with your best friend. “We are too close to ever let business get in-between our friendship”. A lot of times it’s true, and businesses thrive while bringing best friends closer together, however; there’s something about money, power, control, and ego that often finds a way to out muscle even the closest bonds; and when it does – take a step back and figure it out, together; friendship and loyalty goes beyond any dollar amount – this is a lesson better learned sooner than later.
5. Get wasted, sh*t-faced, and blacked-out in public. It’s nights like these that you never remember and people never forget. If you’re lucky, your youth can typically be a “get out of jail free card” (figuratively speaking). The drinking ticket, night in jail, embarrassing stories about you, the reputation of being that guy/girl, or just the hangover itself should give you a hint that it’s not worth it. We call you amateurs. Blacking-out and drinking yourself stupid often has a deeper meaning…insecurity, fear, and unhappiness are a couple words that come to mind. Don’t get me wrong, indulging in more drinks than we should happens to the best of us, however; after a few times you should get the picture, alcohol, like most things are fine in moderation – this is a lesson better learned sooner than later.
6. Say something stupid or post an embarrassing picture/video of yourself on the internet. Yeah, good idea; you got a ton of “Likes”. Problem is, once it’s on the web, it’s there forever. When your 20’s pass and you’ve grown up significantly – the past can haunt you. Not saying the twerking video you uploaded will get you fired from your job years down the road, but if it re-surfaces from an anonymous hater in your life, it’s just another thing you have to deal with. You want attention? Put of a picture of you helping kids in Africa or a “how to” video of your famous pecan pie. Be mindful the decisions you make today will help or haunt your future – this is a lesson better learned sooner than later.
7. Going through that Drug phase. As South Park has profoundly told you “Drugs are bad, mkay”. You want to dibble in some stuff because your friends are doing it, because you’re curious or adventurous? Fine, if your stubborn ass wants to learn the hard way, no one can stop you. I can’t blame you for lacking in judgement though, we’ve all been there – it just takes some people longer to grow up. The sooner you wise up and start surrounding yourself around winners, you’ll start craving a new high called life. The sooner you remove the negative people from your life, the sooner you’ll enjoy the millions of natural highs life has to offer – this is a lesson better learned sooner than later.
8. Move in with your significant other. As far as I’m concerned, if you want to break up with your bf or gf, then you should move in together 🙂 Of course some couples grow stronger by moving in, but your 20’s are designed to be the years of freedom, learning, growth, and discovery. Moving in with your current love is often a great mistake to make because you get a crash course on compromise, conflict resolution, and learn more about yourself than ever before. You have the other 70% of your life to live with your hunny-bunny; but for what it’s worth if you go through with it early; communicate often, be truthful, and if you split, split on good terms and don’t burn bridges – this is a lesson better learned sooner than later.
9. Get out of touch with your family. It’s easy getting caught up with life; especially in your 20’s. Life changes so rapidly and it becomes one huge juggling act. Balancing the important things with the fake important things will be an everyday task – but learning which is which is what your 20’s are all about. Our plates are overflowing; school, career, social life, personal time, love-life, unforeseen issues, lack of money, keeping true friends, meeting new friends, the rent’s due tomorrow, soul-searching, my fridge is packed with condiments and no food, the quarter-life crises phase, building a good reputation, roommate issues, and the list goes on… AND you’re telling me I have to make some time for family!? Yes, welcome to the 20’s. Eventually though, the time will come when you realize just how important family is. Indeed, they are your rock. Indeed they will never steer you wrong, nor will they never not love you. They will keep you grounded through the chaos that is life – this is a lesson better learned sooner than later.
10. Taking risks and failing. The wise will tell you, now is the time you are able to take risks. When you have a family and kids, you have so much to lose. Now, while you’re young, naive, and filled to the brim with energy – take a chance. Fall flat on your face. Get rejected. Get laughed at. Push beyond what you think you’re capable of. Get far out of your comfort zone. Above all, take action. Ask her out, tell him you like him, ask for what you want, go with your gut, speak up, stand up, volunteer, go first. Whatever the result, so be it – but more importantly the action and journey of getting there is a priceless gem. Failing is OK, and the more you get to know it, the sooner you’ll meet success and happiness – this is a lesson better learned sooner than later.
These aren’t in any particular order, but all valuable mistakes to make young! Think of any other great mistakes to make during your 20’s and lessons better learned sooner than later? Share below, we’d love to hear them!
Hemad
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